A Father's Guide to Suicide Prevention: ADHD, Gaming Addiction, and Cyberbullying

Six years ago, I lost my 16-year-old son, Kaden, to suicide. He had been diagnosed with ADHD. This is my story and guide for other parents navigating similar challenges.

I share this not because I have all the answers, but because I wish someone had shared this with me. If my family's tragedy can help even one parent recognize warning signs or take action sooner, then Kaden's memory lives on through that help.

Understanding the Risk Factors

Several factors can increase a young person's risk of suicide. Understanding these can help parents stay vigilant:

ADHD

Children with ADHD face unique challenges—difficulty regulating emotions, impulsivity, social struggles, and often co-occurring anxiety or depression. These challenges can make them more vulnerable to suicidal thoughts, especially when they feel different or misunderstood.

Gaming and Internet Addiction

While gaming itself isn't inherently dangerous, excessive gaming can become a way to escape painful emotions. Watch for signs that gaming is replacing real-world connections, sleep, or other activities your child once enjoyed.

Cyberbullying

Online harassment can be relentless—it follows children into their homes and bedrooms. Many kids don't tell their parents about cyberbullying due to shame or fear of losing device privileges. Stay engaged with your child's online life without being invasive.

Warning Signs to Watch For

Know the warning signs of suicide in young people:

• Talking about wanting to die or being a burden
• Withdrawing from friends, family, and activities
• Changes in sleep patterns (too much or too little)
• Giving away prized possessions
• Increased substance use
• Expressing hopelessness about the future
• Sudden calmness after a period of depression
• Researching ways to die
• Acting recklessly or engaging in risky behaviors

What Parents Can Do

Keep Communication Open

Create an environment where your child feels safe discussing anything—even difficult topics. Ask direct questions. Contrary to myth, asking about suicide doesn't plant the idea; it opens a door for conversation.

Stay Involved

Know your child's friends, online and offline. Pay attention to changes in mood or behavior. Be present, even when they push you away.

Seek Professional Help

Don't wait for a crisis. If your child is struggling with mental health, ADHD, or addiction, get professional support. Therapy can provide coping tools and a safe space to process difficult emotions.

Reduce Access to Means

If your child is at risk, secure firearms, medications, and other potentially lethal means. This single step can save lives during moments of crisis.

Take Care of Yourself

Parenting a struggling child is exhausting. You can't pour from an empty cup. Seek your own support—therapy, support groups, or trusted friends.

A Message of Hope

If you're reading this because you're worried about your child, please know: there is hope. Many young people who struggle with suicidal thoughts go on to live fulfilling lives. Early intervention matters. Professional help matters. Your love and presence matter.

Don't be afraid to ask hard questions. Don't wait to seek help. Trust your instincts as a parent.

Kaden's light was extinguished too soon, but through sharing his story, I hope other families can find the help they need before it's too late.